How to Stay Calm amidst Drama: weathering storms as a mer, Part 2 – tips from AquaTails quality mermaid tails for swimming.
This is Part 2, you can read Part 1 here.
2. Learn the Art of Allowing: Finding your Joy is the first step. The second is learning the Art of Allowing. This is acknowledging that everyone is attracting to themselves the life that they want, whether they realize it or not, and whether they are doing it intentionally or not. None of us can see exactly what is going on inside another person. As someone once said “Be kind, for every person is fighting their own battle.” It is only by making our own choices and learning from them, can we grow.
The Art of Allowing is allowing others the make their choices and live their consequences. It is a good way for you to detach, and not get sucked into another’s drama. The more you practice and perfect staying connected with your Source, and the Art of Allowing, the less you will be personally affected by (or attracted to) others’ personal drama.
This doesn’t mean that you can’t show compassion, support and love to people you care about in these situations. It just means that you can offer your help from your own stronghold of peace and joy – from which you will not shaken (once you learn these techniques well). If you try to help them when you are not connected to your Source, it will backfire, as you will be acting out of your own ego instead, and will not have the resources of calm and well-being with which to truly help others.
Even when a friend is simply venting – which sometimes we all want to do – what they are actually doing is strengthening the negative vibration they are already putting out and experiencing. Your friend doesn’t really want that – they want out of their negative experience and they want an improvement. But that doesn’t come from venting – venting only makes it worse or continues it. The solution is to turn to happy and joyful thoughts – think of what you WANT to be experiencing instead of what you are experiencing. The best thing you can do as a friend is to help the ventor turn to happy thoughts – to start thinking of all the things they appreciate in their situation (or in their life), of how they want this situation to be instead and how happy that will make them feel, etc.
Keep in mind that most people haven’t learned to be connected to their Source, so most people are constantly living and acting from their place of ego, which is our fallen nature. Living from their ego, some people want and attract drama – they love the attention, the adrenaline from the conflict, etc. If that’s what you want in your life, then you have the freedom to attract and live that. For those of us who don’t want that, the more we practice these techniques, the less we will attract these situations into our lives, and/or the better we’ll be able to handle them when they do appear.
There is so much more in the Abraham Hicks books, this is just a tiny taste of the treasure you will find there. I highly recommend them, when you are ready to start deliberately creating the life you truly desire.
Mermaid love and wishes, from AquaTails!